I am teaching the daugther of the man who raped me!
I work for School District 57 in Prince George. As most people know it was semester change last week and so all new classes started in the high schools. In my first class of the day I was running through the class list and marking who was present or not. I was about half way down the list when I came along the name of a new student to our school. I knew the last name but quickly thought … well lots of people have that last name. Well I looked up and scanned the room to see if I could see which student went with this name. And there staring at me was a female version of the man who raped me when I was 12. I have never seen someone so much like their parent before. I thought I was going to die. It was so hard to focus on anything else. I wanted to run out of the room yelling. Panic hit me so hard. I had to leave the room for a few minutes to regain myself.
How am I going to teach a class with this child looking at me every day? I know it has nothing to do with her. Her father was the one who did this to me. But how am I going to talk with her parents knowing that he did this to me years ago. What is he going to do when he realizes that I am now teaching his daughter?
I tried to tell someone about what he did to me but the cops said that I was just making it up. I was a girl who slept with someone and then regretted it the next day. Since that time I have never said anything to anyone about it. I know he was really pissed off at when he heard that I went to the cops and he threatened to kill me and my family. We had to move and I had to start my life over again. What am I going to do when I see him again?
Tags: Prince George
April 18th, 2011 at 4:29 pm
You are going to have to find a way to move past what happened to you. Bad things happen to good people for no reason in the world. Has beenthat way since the beginning of time and it won’t stop anytime soon. It’s ok to be a victim of any crime… you didn’t do anything to make this happen. Even if you did, we all make mistakes and we should forgive ourselves. Hopefully you can speak with a councillor and work through it to find some peace.
July 19th, 2012 at 3:49 pm
As far as I know there is no “statute of limitations” on sexual assault. If you were to want to pursue it, you would be able to… sometimes (most times), an assailant has assaulted more than one person – but if there is no history of assault, they are all too often let go.
If you don’t want to pursue it, there are some great counseling services available (E Fry, Community Crisis Center, MHS, etc). Also, EMDR can be a valuable tool for some – especially when dealing with trauma.
All I know is, I hope he hasn’t had the opportunity to assault someone again – including his daughter 🙁