Six months ago I got married to my now wife. We both had an affair with each other on adult friend finder. I was not happy in my relationship and she was not happy in hers. So we both ended up cheating on our spouses. At first we had a fling from Meet Locals and then as fate would have it we again met from Ashley Madison in Vancouver. Of course thinking it was the “fate” we both decided to continue our relationship. We eventually got married. She was a very sexy, attentive lover and a very sweet person who act like she had plenty in common with me. She would say she likes to watch the football; she likes to go fishing and stuff like that those I am interested in. I thought I found my soul mate. Her daughter, however, would ask me if I was sure I wanted to marry her mother. I would say, yes, of course. Little did I know why she was asking those things?

As soon as we got married she flipped. For no apparent reason she stopped having sex with me. She never touches me. She stays on the computer at all times. I know the circumstances on how we met. We both cheated in our previous relationships, but I don’t know if this all a game to her. When she comes home she goes straight to the computer. She doesn’t even speak to anyone in the house. She doesn’t drink or smoke so I am not sure what is going on. Her daughter wants me to adopt her and divorce her mother so she can leave us alone. She is a terrible mother and a terrible wife. I don’t like her at all. I wish life was simple. Some days now I miss my previous relationship. I miss my ex and regret cheating on her. I wish I never cheated.

I have been thinking about becoming an escort for years now but never had the balls to actually follow through. I thought it was just something in my fantasy and nothing will actually happen. Now that I am a third year student at the University of Northern British Columbia, I have made up my mind. It is something I really want to do. I have had 3 long term relationships that haven’t worked out and just want to stay single for a while now. However I love sex and sleeping around with random guys in Prince George or Quesnel has its pros and cons. I even went to Mackenzie, Dawson Creek, and Fort St. John for sex with random guys. I meet people on Plenty of Fish site and also from Fling for sex. So I figured sleeping with strangers would be so much easier. I fantasize about the double life and I think I will like the double life. Of course I wont say anything to anyone, I love being mysterious. I know so people say there are ups and downs in this line of lifestyle which I am aware of, but I feel I would rather find out for myself instead of having this lingering in my mind for rest of my life, you never no what may happen. I also think I will get to travel many places such as Vancouver, Victoria, Nanaimo, Kamloops, Kelowna and many other places for sex. If I dont like it after first few tries then I can call it quite. I could really use the money as well.

But I have no idea where to start and how to get my clients? I was thinking of joining an agency like in Nanaimo or in Prince George or in Vancouver, but at the same time would rather do it myself to be more flexible with my schedule and life. Is there anyone doing anything similar to this? Could you please give me some tips and advice on how to start and what to do? I am waiting to hear all your ideas and thoughts.

We live in Vancouver and our secret is that my wife and I have been masturbating for several years with or without each other and neither of us feel that there is anything wrong with that. My sex drive is higher than my wife, and since she can’t accommodate every night, I masturbate. I would masturbate with live shows from Fling which adds to the excitement because it’s live. I read something in one of those woman’s magazines that said if “she masturbates it’s because her man is selfish or has no clue about her needs,” for which I say that’s a lie! I suppose the less secure would say that, but it is a perfectly acceptable trade off in a secure relationship. Neither of us gets offended because one finds the need for release with or without the other.

September of last year I went and visited my husband on the road (Vancouver) for holiday. We live in Prince George. His company paid for the hotel and his expense. So it was just my expense which was nothing. First evening I was there, we got into our swim suits (company put him at the Sutton place hotel in Vancouver) and headed for the pool and hot tub downstairs.  I had not seen him for a while, so we were both in the mood for some adult fun. While sitting in the hot tub, I started teasing him under the bubbles and of course some kissing action was happening. He got rock hard and I got horny. After stroking him for few minutes, he told me he was going to cum.  I could not resist myself; I reached down and pulled my suite to the side and gently lowered myself down onto him under the bubbles, it really felt so amazing and warm. He was right, within seconds he exploded inside me. Within seconds a family came in the pool area. Of course he was still inside me and didn’t want to make sudden move. Thank god they stayed in the pool area and not near the hot tub. After another few minutes in the water we just stood up and headed back to our room. We still get turned on by this incident because that was our first time in public and certainly was not the last since.

I’ve always had the fantasy of getting a handjob from our maid ever since I could remember my first childhood memories. My dad owns few businesses in Quesnel and in Prince Rupert. We were well off and had maid for the house. She was a black woman of about forty if I remember correctly. But she just had such a warm maternal vibe about her that I always found her sexy. And since I was in my teenage years I seemed to always find myself in the bedroom “jerking off” madly at the thought of her catching me in the act, and rather than punishing me, she’d lay down beside me and stroke me off gently herself!

Of course it never happened, but it used to make for good times.

Now that I’m much older, I live the fantasy whenever I get the chance to go to Vancouver. Time to time I get a black woman from one of the escort services and act out the fantasy with her. God is it ever so hot! Laying there naked as a dressed middle-aged black woman masturbates me while telling me she’s going to “tell my mum” just makes me explode! I am now 39 and haven’t had any real relationships because of my fantasies. I want to find some real relationships someday soon and hope my fantasy doesn’t ruin it.